The reason so many str8 men indulge their bi-curiosity which you will come to learn and learn well throughout this piece on Craigslist is that they simply get fed up looking for women only to get scammed over and over again. Most posts by men under M4W go ignored or are only answered by the previously mentioned hookers and webcam girls, and sometimes the occasional horribly unfortunate-looking real woman looking for a casual good time. And yet, you always have to send them pics first.
I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but most women actually looking for sex on Craigslist from everyone I know who's actually met up with one really aren't the type to socialize beyond a certain point or even know to look or groom past a certain I'm not saying it is impossible to meet an attractive woman on CL, I suppose if you keep trying it'll eventually happen. But same goes with meeting anyone you'll find attractive in pretty much any situation.
We live in an age of abbreviated words and phrases, mostly due to the wonderful world of the internet, which is still something "new", I don't care how many of you kids grew up with it. Anyway, no place on earth exemplifies this culture of abbreviation more than the Craigslist personals section, or the "Casual Encounters" section.
There are several CL shorthand terms, but I'd say these are some of the essentials. DDF means "drug and disease free" this is big in M4M encounters. Oh, M4M is Men for Men btw. You do know what btw is though right?? After you know the lingo it's really just about making a post , including an image and waiting for fish to bite.
Having a picture on there is really important, as a lot of people filter out the submissions without photos. Much dumber people than you and I have figured out how to do this, so I'm going to focus on how not to make horrible mistakes while using this Starting with the people to avoid at all costs PNP , in craigslist parlance, stands for "party 'n play" which stands for sex while high on drugs.
While PNP could technically refer to marijuana, the average stoner will usually just say " Friendly" instead. And as twitchy and annoying as they can be And a pair of handcuffs. I'm a handsome guy, 40, 5 feet 11 inches, nice eyes, beard, a little burly, work out times per week, and I clean up real nice, as they say. Send a photo, I'll send you mine. Terence's spanking offer might have narrowed the field, but then again, the field is always narrow for men who are seeking women, and even ads that aren't seeking anything exotic tend not to get a lot of replies.
In the personals, it's women who run the show. Terence received a whopping total of nine responses. Of those, eight were spam. These were identifiable by their extremely generic nature, typically something like, "Hey I liked your ad. I'm on Yahoo Messenger right now! Send me a message at HotGirl! But one smelled like it might be human: Cautiously optimistic, Terence sent a response, including a picture. The blonde replied, "Thanks for the pic Already realizing odds were against him, Terence threw in the towel, retorting, "Sorry, honey, that's as young as I get.
When asked why he didn't work particularly hard to continue the established contact, by, say, inviting the blonde out for coffee, Terence gripes, "I'm fucking sick of 'coffee. The only thing I'd meet up for is if she wants to take her clothes off today. The hard lesson most men learn on Craigslist: Because they outnumber women by about 20 to 1 on Casual Encounters, men aren't something to be desired. Very youthful, very curvy year-old in Santa Monica seeks very youthful, preferably young, attractive baby-faced man for casual encounters hopefully plural!
By the way, replies without pics will not be considered. On Craigslist, women can be this flat-out demanding and not be dismissed as bitches but get plenty of play. Clarissa's ad, for example, got more than responses. The sexually adventurous, curly-haired brunette isn't averse to casual hookups. The responses started coming in immediately.
Then I got more and more replies, and had fun responding, and considered meeting someone. But then I got bored, and the only one that was really interesting has been reticent.
Her initial ardor cooled, and in the end, Clarissa didn't meet up with even one of her potential sack mates. The rising fears that dampened her heat ran the gamut: Jeopardizing my health and my business. Getting emotionally hurt by some thoughtless, shallow swinger with herpes who makes some 'they're not exactly perky' comment about my breasts while expecting me to agree and fuck him anyway.
This is the bell curve many Casual Encounters advertisers travel: If you're wondering why that sexy chick suddenly quit answering your e-mails, this sort of rational thought process is probably the reason. Gay men are always on the vanguard of any of society's sexual shifts, for good or ill, from HIV to Grindr, and Josh sees Craigslist as antiquated.
He hooked up online as recently as last week, but not via Craigslist. He checks the site from time to time, but, "In reality, I haven't had sex through Craigslist for years and years and years. With his swimmer's body, unblemished, caramel-colored skin and engaging, lighthearted, party-party personality, this resident of an Elle Decor —worthy West Hollywood apartment is clearly a desirable specimen.
Josh is in a committed relationship, but his partner has a job that forces him to travel out of town frequently; even when his boyfriend is home, his sex drive simply doesn't match Josh's. So Josh looks online for casual hookups often, and has no trouble finding them. However, he's largely left Craigslist behind. Josh prefers a number of other sites to the creaky Craigslist, such as Adam4Adam, BarebackRT with its high proportion of users who, like himself, are HIV-positive or his favorite, Manhunt.
Manhunt works because its interface has something that Craigslist has stubbornly refused to add: Twenty pictures, 20 guys. You decide on two to three options per page, and you click.
Josh adds that no site has eliminated the flake factor, which is ubiquitous in the online world. The other big problem: Not saying that fat people can't have sex, but it's the lying that got me.
So I said, 'I'm sorry, I gotta go, it's not going to work. I don't want to spend money in a bar. I don't want to make myself cute. I don't want small talk, trying to be charming and seductive. It's a lot more effort. On a website, you go straight to the point. I'm looking for someone with no strings attached, one and done.
I cannot get involved, because I'm in a relationship. The only thing I want is to have sex. One benefit of the rise in online sex: Josh concludes that it's made the West Hollywood bar scene a lot more enjoyable.Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something. One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information. However, when it comes to getting casual online sexual hook ups, we have it SO much easier than you or, since this is all about craigslist, I'll just say Str8s, to keep with the lingo. I want all of the winter or when one of us finds someone better, whichever comes. But one smelled like it might be human: But there's another function: